I had trolled many threads to gather what information I could and recently just DD4H's DVD...get the DVD, it'll save you a lot of time in terms of trying to find the info yourself. Regarding helping you with the dry lube, yes, at one point during the wheel and axle prep he tells you when to stop if you're using graphite.
Lastly, regarding the wheel prep, best to start with his basic set of wheels versus you trying to shave everything yourself. You'll save yourself a lot of time and $$ if you just cut to the chase. I can understand if you want to try your hand at it first cause I did the same, but after spending hours in the garage and wasting many wheel sets, I accepted that I'd been there and done that.